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freshman year. I feel like the realization that I could move on without him and that I
could stand alone as a person was great progress for me.
3. I also met my boyfriend of two years my freshman year. I had never had a serious
boyfriend in high school and not only was college a new experience, but so was my
relationship. I now understand how loving I can be towards someone else.
4. In November of my sophomore year I found out that my boyfriend of 3 ½ years
was not only cheating on me with a 16 year old, but when I found out, he left me to
be with her. I was completely depressed my entire sophomore year and found
comfort in partying really hard and eating a lot and spending as much time with my
craziest friends as possible. I was actually proud of my behavior and wanted my ex
to see that this was what I was doing so I would post crazy pictures on myspace to
piss him off. Then one day I read that his girlfriend and her best friend were openly
making fun of me and called me a whale. It was really important looking back that I
saw myself through their eyes and saw how sad what I was doing to myself really
was. I was really embarrassed, and not only took the pictures down but stopped
drinking and partying so hard and lost a lot of weight so no one could talk about me
like that again. I think it made me realize I didn’t want to be who I was being and
that I just needed to calm down and deal with what happened to me instead of
running away from it, which is very positive in the long run.
5. This summer, I was dating a guy and one night he was acting odd so I knew
something was strange, but it turns out his ex-girlfriend had invited herself to come
over and he hadn’t refused her so she came. He wasn’t honest with me and didn’t tell
me this fact until she arrived to the building that we both lived in. It was very
uncomfortable for me and for all of our mutual friends who thought that it was an
odd thing to do since we were all present when she came over. I was fuming mad but
I kept my cool in front of everyone and had an assertive conversation with him the
next day when he meekishly realized he had done something wrong. I re-evaluated
our relationship and realized that I didn’t want to tolerate dishonestly in a
relationship and let it fizzle out.
6. One of my good friends had a horrible fight with her boyfriend, which ended with
her on crutches after he accidentally (and drunkenly) dragged her behind his car for
half a block. Even despite the horror of this incident alone, she continued to beg her
boyfriend for forgiveness (although he clearly was in the wrong). This incident really
opened my eyes to how girls allow their sense of self to be shaped by boys – this girl
is one of my good friends and she has so much going for her – smart, beautiful,
accomplished, sweet, motivated, a great friend, the list goes on – but the way the boy
ignored her after essentially leaving her for the dead made her feel unconfident and
undeserving. It broke my heart to see this great girl feeling down on herself because
of the foul of (for lack of better terms) this loser. While giving her advice, it made
Object Description
| Title | Student perspectives on identity development: describing the experiences sorority members perceive influenced their identity |
| Author | Sarkissian, Vergene |
| Author email | vergenes@usc.edu; sarkv@hotmail.com |
| Degree | Doctor of Education |
| Document type | Dissertation |
| Degree program | Education |
| School | Rossier School of Education |
| Date defended/completed | 2008-05-13 |
| Date submitted | 2008 |
| Restricted until | Restricted until 2 Oct. 2009. |
| Date published | 2009-10-02 |
| Advisor (committee chair) | Goodyear, Rodney K. |
| Advisor (committee member) |
Malloy, Courtney Espalin, Charles A. |
| Abstract | This qualitative study examined the college related sources of impact that sorority member students perceived affected their identity development. A variant of Flanagan's (1954) Critical Incident Technique was used to ask sorority members (n=70) to describe one or two critical incidents that they believed had affected their sense of self, and then to rate the immediate positivity of the incident, as well its eventual effect on their sense of self. Three doctoral students reviewed the 100 obtained incident reports, from which they developed 14 themes: Participating in rush an/or joining a sorority; Being elected or serving in a sorority leadership position; Dealing with crisis; Receiving the support of sisters with in the sorority network; Being elected or serving in a leadership position in a campus related organization; Learning about myself as a result of a romantic relationship; Making an important, independent decision for myself; Making a commitment to community service and outreach; Sorority affiliated judgment or rejection; Having an experience of failure; Making the transition from home to college; Studying abroad; Receiving personal or career guidance from others; Engaging in a selfless act of compassion. The findings of this study provide valuable insight and knowledge to the potential benefits of sorority affiliation in regards to college women's identity development. The findings also support previous research on women's identity development and suggest gender specific developmental pathways. In congruence with student development research and theory, experiences related to student involvement, relationship, autonomy and crisis were prevalent in the participant responses. The limitations of the study, recommendations for future research and implications for higher education practice are also presented. |
| Keyword | identity development; women's identity development; sorority membership; sorority network; student inolvement; leadership; relationships; mentorship; social capital; crisis; autonomy; study abroad |
| Language | English |
| Part of collection | University of Southern California dissertations and theses |
| Publisher (of the original version) | University of Southern California |
| Place of publication (of the original version) | Los Angeles, California |
| Publisher (of the digital version) | University of Southern California. Libraries |
| Provenance | Digitized by the University of Southern California |
| Type | texts |
| Legacy record ID | usctheses-m1619 |
| Contributing entity | University of Southern California |
| Rights | Sarkissian, Vergene |
| Repository name | Libraries, University of Southern California |
| Repository address | Los Angeles, California |
| Repository email | cisadmin@lib.usc.edu |
| Filename | etd-Sarkissian-2435 |
| Archival file | uscthesesreloadpub_Volume14/etd-Sarkissian-2435.pdf |
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| Title | Page 144 |
| Contributing entity | University of Southern California |
| Repository email | cisadmin@lib.usc.edu |
| Full text | 136 freshman year. I feel like the realization that I could move on without him and that I could stand alone as a person was great progress for me. 3. I also met my boyfriend of two years my freshman year. I had never had a serious boyfriend in high school and not only was college a new experience, but so was my relationship. I now understand how loving I can be towards someone else. 4. In November of my sophomore year I found out that my boyfriend of 3 ½ years was not only cheating on me with a 16 year old, but when I found out, he left me to be with her. I was completely depressed my entire sophomore year and found comfort in partying really hard and eating a lot and spending as much time with my craziest friends as possible. I was actually proud of my behavior and wanted my ex to see that this was what I was doing so I would post crazy pictures on myspace to piss him off. Then one day I read that his girlfriend and her best friend were openly making fun of me and called me a whale. It was really important looking back that I saw myself through their eyes and saw how sad what I was doing to myself really was. I was really embarrassed, and not only took the pictures down but stopped drinking and partying so hard and lost a lot of weight so no one could talk about me like that again. I think it made me realize I didn’t want to be who I was being and that I just needed to calm down and deal with what happened to me instead of running away from it, which is very positive in the long run. 5. This summer, I was dating a guy and one night he was acting odd so I knew something was strange, but it turns out his ex-girlfriend had invited herself to come over and he hadn’t refused her so she came. He wasn’t honest with me and didn’t tell me this fact until she arrived to the building that we both lived in. It was very uncomfortable for me and for all of our mutual friends who thought that it was an odd thing to do since we were all present when she came over. I was fuming mad but I kept my cool in front of everyone and had an assertive conversation with him the next day when he meekishly realized he had done something wrong. I re-evaluated our relationship and realized that I didn’t want to tolerate dishonestly in a relationship and let it fizzle out. 6. One of my good friends had a horrible fight with her boyfriend, which ended with her on crutches after he accidentally (and drunkenly) dragged her behind his car for half a block. Even despite the horror of this incident alone, she continued to beg her boyfriend for forgiveness (although he clearly was in the wrong). This incident really opened my eyes to how girls allow their sense of self to be shaped by boys – this girl is one of my good friends and she has so much going for her – smart, beautiful, accomplished, sweet, motivated, a great friend, the list goes on – but the way the boy ignored her after essentially leaving her for the dead made her feel unconfident and undeserving. It broke my heart to see this great girl feeling down on herself because of the foul of (for lack of better terms) this loser. While giving her advice, it made |
